The Year Ahead
What matters most is the ability to stay in the present, yet have a yearning for the future.
Perhaps the years past haven’t brought you the prosperity that you desired or the intimacy that you sought, but today is another day for you to desire and seek the things that are true and real in your life.
Have you ever considered the difference between wants and needs? Of course, the “wants” always take precedence. Think about looking through a store, and like a child in a candy shop, everything looks like something you would want. But, do you “need” it? Financial experts separate wants from needs when they consider the risks of an investment. Parents consider the two when they are planning and budgeting for their family. It’s the same for people who are looking for love. What is it that you really want? What is it that you really need? How do you know the difference?
Many women want a prince on a white horse. Men would settle for no less than a runway model. Let’s be real, though. There aren’t many princes riding around on white horses, or no horse at best. Runway models are few and far between. Wanting the prettiest, the wealthiest, or the sexiest isn’t going to bring you the happiness that you pursue. Without settling for less, think about what the characteristics of the person you so desire has and how they fit your needs. Is he smart? Is she intellectual? Is there an attraction? What about family values? Religious beliefs? Chemistry? There are so many needs to consider.
In the year ahead take the time to stay in the moment and think about what you are looking for and how to best attain your goals. Make this year a year of change. Adjust your “wants/needs” meter to balance out who you really are and what will bring you happiness.
Happy New Year!
